mrim не работает

есть свой сервер на ejabberd, ну это в принципе не важно
mrim не работает ни 0.1.1, ни из svn...
в дебаге пишет примерно следующее:

15/09/08-14:24:31 [ 
example@mail.ru

] Connecting to 194.186.55.28:2041 
15/09/08-14:24:31 [ 
example@mail.ru

] Connection OK, sending HELLO 
15/09/08-14:24:31 [ 
example@mail.ru

] Send MRIM_CS_HELLO packet (type=0x1001):
--- begin ---
Header: {'from': '0.0.0.0', 'dlen': 0, 'seq': 72762L, 'proto': 65545L, 'reserved': (0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0), 'fromport': '0', 'msg':4097, 'magic': 3735928559L}
Body: {}
--- end ---
15/09/08-14:24:32 [
example@mail.ru

] Got MRIM_CS_HELLO_ACK packet (type=0x1002):
--- begin ---
Header: {'from': '0.0.0.0', 'dlen': 4, 'seq': 72762, 'proto': 65554, 'reserved': (50, 0, 0, 0, 224, 140, 228, 75, 171, 42, 0, 0, 128, 153, 20, 21), 'fromport': '0.0.0.0', 'msg': 4098, 'magic': 3735928559L}
Body: {'ping_period': 30}
--- end ---
15/09/08-14:24:32 [
example@mail.ru

] Successfully connected
15/09/08-14:24:32 [
example@mail.ru

] Server version is 1.18
15/09/08-14:24:32 [
example@mail.ru

] Server has set ping period to 30 seconds
15/09/08-14:24:32 [
example@mail.ru

] Sending credentials
15/09/08-14:24:32 [
example@mail.ru

] Send MRIM_CS_LOGIN2 packet (type=0x1038):
--- begin ---
Header: {'from': '0.0.0.0', 'dlen': 46, 'seq': 10302L, 'proto': 65545L, 'reserved': (0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0), 'fromport': '0', 'msg': 4152, 'magic': 3735928559L}
Body: {'status': 1, 'login': '\nexample@mail.ru', 'password': '\npassword', 'user_agent': 'Mrim '}
--- end ---
15/09/08-14:24:32 [socket/sent] sent stanza(s):

15/09/08-14:24:32 [
example@mail.ru

] Connection error (194.186.55.28): Connection reset by peer
15/09/08-14:24:32 [socket/sent] sent stanza(s):
Сбой подключения к серверу Mail.Ru
15/09/08-14:24:32 [
example@mail.ru

] Reconnect over 60 seconds

в этом и заключается проблема, а на jabber.ru все работает прекрасно, отсюда и повод для беспокойства :)